The Balance of Relationships

I’ve long felt that the martial arts needs a solid teacher-student relationship in order to function fully. It’s a consciously-cultivated approach that takes our training from simply an activity into the domain of a mature study. That relationship is treated differently from classroom to classroom, and from country to country. When I visited Japan, I … [Read more…]

Black Belt, White Belt

There’s a common phrase in the martial arts – “a black belt is a white belt that never quit.” I don’t agree…. …entirely. See, I believe that every every serious beginner’s minimum goal should be black belt. Not just because of what you get but what you become in the process. It’s just so much … [Read more…]


When we’re working with a partner, there are times when we hold onto a technique too long. It becomes the sole object of our intention. We have it in our minds that the goal is within our reach, so we form an argument and a standpoint and we insist. When this happens, we don’t realize … [Read more…]

The Value of Craft

As a martial arts practitioner, understand the value of being great at your craft. Engage with and commit to whatever it is you’re studying. For people who are into their practice, just the the simple goal to develop a great armlock, for example, is enough. It’s like a Zen koan: the more you look at … [Read more…]

You’re Good!

Back in the in the late 1980s and early 1990s, every Friday night I sparred with an Olympic Tae Kwon Do gold medalist. And it’s an understatement to say that it was arduous training. His main objective, truly, in every single round, was to knock me out cold – that was his sole purpose. And it … [Read more…]

Empty Hand

When I was taking karate growing up, one of the things I loved about it was the translation of the word itself: the two characters mean “empty hand”. It helped me to understand that I didn’t have to hit someone over the head with a stick or cut someone with a knife. That idea was immensely … [Read more…]

The Last Word

In the past, I’ve said that when it comes to teachers, my personal preference is to have a very rigorous and strict one. I want someone who can be at the helm of my progress. I don’t want it to be any other way, because I know that in order to get to the next … [Read more…]

What’s On The Plate?

Yesterday my mentor told me that as part of her practice, at every meal she leaves something on her plate to share with her family. And she doesn’t leave food on her plate because they don’t have enough food…it’s because she works to think less of herself and more of others. Now that might be … [Read more…]